Me, Myself and I Syndrome


Today I reached my tolerance limit pertaining to those who want, want more, fail to appreciate the time and effort donated, tell you how it should have been done rather than admiring what was done (although they failed to show up when you were asking for their advice)  and overall, choose to criticize what they received for FREE because it isn’t perfect for them or done to their ideal.


I’m going to call it the Me, Myself and I Syndrome. And I’m certain it has reached epidemic proportions and unfortunately, has spilled over into Agility.


Rather than focus on the two incidents that got me started on this topic, I’m going to focus on a few guidelines to help people avoid the Me, Myself and I Syndrome. So here they are:


If You Didn’t Help Build It, Keep Your Opinions To Yourself!

  • This should be obvious, but if for whatever reason you weren’t a part of the project, the sharing of unsolicited opinions will more than likely come across as criticism.
  • This may come as a shock, but please consider that you may not know it all. For example;
  • Each project has a path of development and there are generally reasons why things are the way they are. If you weren’t a part of the project’s creation, you probably weren’t privy to the ‘hows’ and ‘whys’, which means your opinion may have some big holes in it. There’s nothing worse than a know-it-all who doesn’t actually, know it all.
  • Hindsight is revealing, so what may now seem obvious to you once the project is completed, may not have been so obvious during the project’s creation.
FREE Means You Get Whatever Comes Your Way
  • Contrary to popular opinion, criticizing FREE things (work, volunteers, materials, etc.) will NOT make for better or more FREE things to come your way.
  • In fact, it’s been proven that in the future you’ll receive less and will more than likely not even be aware that you inadvertently insulted your FREE resources.
  • If you want it done your way, either 1) do it yourself or 2) pay to have it done.
  • FREE does not create a contract of servitude.
  • FREE is not an indicator that it is appropriate to request more.
  • FREE should not trigger an invitation for unsolicited criticism.
  • FREE means it’s NOT about Me, Myself and I, but rather about Them, Those Guys and Everyone Else.
I’m sure there’s more to be said, but I’m feeling much better for having shared some thoughts on avoiding the Me, Myself and I Syndrome. But I do want to share some great advice.
I’d like to encourage each of you to see and THANK those around you who give even the smallest of efforts. Technically those folks owe you NOTHING, Nada, Zilt, Zilch and therefore anything they do is truly a blessing.

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